In other cases people define themselves based on things that are unchangeable. They base it on personal traits, such as eye color, as well as disabilities.
A few years ago I was suffering from infertility. When you're struggling through something like that it's easy to use it to define yourself. I was determined to not be defined by my infertility. In fact, I rarely mentioned it to anyone.
What I found is that others used it to define me.
Everytime I was introduced to someone new, it seemed like I was always referred to as Infertile Katie (no one ever really called me that). People seemed to focus so much on the fact that I wasn't able to get pregnant, that I began to feel like that was who I was.
So one day a I sat down and made a list of the things that define me. I am so much more than my infertility.
I am -
- A writer
- A friend
- A sister
- An aunt
- A wife
- A mother
Now go make your own list of who you are. I guarantee that you will feel good about yourself because you will be focusing on the positives rather than the negatives. Feel free to share your list! I'd love to hear what defines you.